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The Greatest Commandments (Welcome Remarks)

May 2, 2013




Good Morning Everybody. My Dad was reminding me yesterday how I once gave a talk and left the last page at home, so now I’m making sure I’ve got all my pages! Really, we’re here today to have a conversation, so I will try and go with that format.


We’re so grateful that all of you are here today. It’s overwhelming to think that one year ago, I didn’t know anyone in this room. I met Bryce and Sara Cook’s son and he said to me something like, “Why don’t we start a group for gay Mormons to get together and build some friendships?” Then, he got a job overseas and had to leave, so I stepped in to try and take on that task! (You can read a little bit more about that experience starting our group here for LGBT/SSA friends and family on the No More Strangers blog.)


Over the last year, it’s been a wonderful experience to meet members of the Church and fellow LGBT/SSA Mormons, to help create a place where we can come together to be supportive and to be there for each other. After such a positive experience in starting this group, we wanted to reach out a little more and started planning this conference. Over the past few months, we’ve had the wonderful experience of getting to know many of you and talking with more people about this. We are so glad that all of you are here today. I feel like more than anything any of us can say today, the fact that all of you are here is probably the most important.


I’ve been thinking a lot about how I wish I had known, for all those years that I felt so lonely and isolated, that someday there would be something like this, where people would be coming together. That’s really what this conference is about today. We wanted to provide an opportunity for people to come together.

We have a panel of LDS LGBT/SSA later today. They’re going to be sharing their experiences and it will be an opportunity to better understand what it’s like to be a member of the Church and to have same sex attraction, or to be gay. One of them has been a good friend since high school. We went through so much time not knowing that either of us were sharing this experience. Lately, we’ve been talking and about how it is kind of humorous, now, to think about the time when he told me, “I’m gay” and to his surprise I responded with something like, “actually, I am too!”. (listen to more of that story at Gay Mormon Stories)


This friend was someone I have known for years and years. We were roommates at BYU and had gone to high school together. It is a funny story, to remember sitting there “outing” ourselves to each other, but in some ways, it’s also sad that during some of the darkest times of our lives, before that point, we were so afraid to let anyone know about this or so worried about everything that we didn’t even know that both of us were going through this. I’m grateful that recently, particularly over the past year within or LDS community, that we’ve been able to talk more openly about these issues, that people are coming forward and sharing their experiences, and that we’re having more of a dialogue. I feel like that’s really great.


I know that many of you are here for your brother, or your sister, or your daughter or son, or maybe a friend, or even just a fellow member of the Church, or maybe you’re here for someone you’ve been called to serve as a leader in the Church. I want to say thank you for coming and being here.


Sometimes people ask, what’s the best thing I could do? When someone first learns that they have a family member that’s gay or has SSA, they may be asking questions like, “What should I do?”, “What should I tell them?”, or “How do we deal this?”. Really, I think the most important thing is being together and talking about it. All of you being here today and being willing to walk down this road together with your LGBT friends and family, it reminds me of the scripture where Christ instructs, “If someone asks you to go with you a mile, go with him two” (Matthew 5:41).


It’s so easy to get caught in some of the conflict and debate on all of this, but I think at the end of the day, people just want to know that you’ll be there with them and that they’ll be welcome in your heart and in your homes. That’s what’s most important.


So, I thought I would share a little bit about what I wrote about our Phoenix LDS LGBT/SSA Friends and Family group.


We have been learning as we go, but I continue to feel strongly that there is strength to be found by all of us coming together, wherever we are in our different journeys. I believe that together we can find support and peace and comfort along whatever paths that we m